The Rape of Humanity

So all of you would have probably see/heard/read about the GUWAHATI case by now?

Yes. The very same one...where a teenage girl was molested by an unruly mob of around 40-50.
So obviously you all would have spat your outrage in disgust and frustration at the current miserable condition of affairs in our country.
There might have been many who would have gone and seen the video,felt even more horrified looking at the animals apparently depicted in it trying to enjoy a piece of flesh and getting a kick out of doing something so derogatory. (NO, i couldn't get myself to view the video.)


If you have been following the case as being shouted out in the media, you would know the happenings by now.
A class eleventh girl was molested by a MOB..a whole fucking MOB outside a night club in guwahati.
I know there might be many out there who would say, why in the heavens was an under-age girl drinking and out with guys so late in the night.There would be some pricks who would obviously point out the character of the girl saying, it was her fault. She shouldn't have gone out in the first place.
(I had read the comments of a few readers on a news article on the same. There was a man who actually had the goddamn audacity to write.."I would never allow my daughters out so late..this incident raises questions on her character" )

Its indeed sad that, even today we have people who will blame the girl for anything she does. All this ,when the entire incident was being shown live across all the news channels in the country, and it was all out there for the people to see such a young girl being harassed by so many.

What will happen next is something that has always been happening with a zillion other things in this country when it comes to law and order. The case will drag itself on the handicapped legs of the justice providers and it will take ages to bring the perpetrators to book.

I may be wrong here...the process might even be sped up and and the animals might be punished as soon as possible.
But the way it is going everyday, i hardly see justice happening in the near future.

When we try to observe the on goings in this case.

• The reporter of News Live resigning from his position.
• The head of the news channel proclaiming that he will resign too.
• The insensitive chief minister bumbling out the name of the hapless victim in a press release and then apologizing for the blunder.
• The inability of the police to arrest the main culprit as he is being pointed out to be.

and so many more...we realize..what a bunch of loons we are surrounded with.
But then i guess..If  KASAB can still be alive in our country. anybody can be.


Justice will come when it will. delayed or hastened.
A new SSP will come in place of the transferred guy.
The news channel will issue a public apology and somebody else will replace the resigned reporter.
Or probably he himself will join in some time.

But anything happens, whoever comes and goes.. nothing..i mean NOTHING will erase the scalding, killing memory of those minutes from that girl's mind. Every single day she would still feel the disgust at being touched by those dirty hands and it will always remind her of the death of humanity in this world.
Whether it was her fault that she was in an inebriated state or that she was out that late are nothing but a very weak argument against what she went through in those moments.

Even now when i step out of home, I have a mother who says "please be careful..don't answer anyone who tries to get fresh with you.Don't be over-smart and retort or fight against anyone...what if they follow you and cause harm later." I have a father who says stay safe.
I realize deep down, i don't really have to do anything to invite any kind of trouble from the opposite sex. Whether i am wearing a saree or a burkha or a pair of jeans or a salwar suit...the fact that i have a pair of blobs sticking out right in front of my chest is enough to bring down the male vision right below my face.

So you see it doesn't really require them to touch you to realize that you are being molested for their satisfaction. A pair of eyes is all it takes to feel naked in public.


We take pride in calling ourselves a TOLERANT nation.
But i am afraid, we have become so bloody tolerant, that it borders on
"as-long-as-its-not-in-my-backyard-i-don't-really-care" approach.

And all this includes me as well. What am i actually doing about this other than blogging about it. Cos i don't really know how i being a woman, a citizen can help.
So will we always keep running away? or be ready to face the demons?

Why did i write this post?
This is the least i could do to give a voice to the thoughts of that girl.

Humanity has been raped..and it will be time and again.
The victim would have been dying a thousand deaths since that fateful night.
 & I honestly don't know whether i will be the next.

Be Safe.

PS-I know i have been MIA for time immemorial. But then sometimes..randomness does happen.

Till today Saplling for Life!!!!!

Playing with a toy listening stories.. 

AT 2.. 

Was asked to give it to the crying lot... 

AND,, then my dreamz were never mine..!!

Holding glass of milk, playing in lawn..

AT 13..

Choosing study with cricket to play but duno when turned chess..

Smiling talking as they wanted..

AT 16..

Each foot step directed,,

grasping mathematical formulas soon replaced soft drinks..!!

Nicely dressed with salwar,, further path was already laid..

AT 18.. 

choosing career equalled to getting into dreamworld..

And then realizing it wasnt my world.. MY Dreamz.. dezires..

the word "ME" had disappeared lonnnnng back..

Today, AT 25.. 

having all one aspires for.. 

A Car,, Job,, Money,, Bungalow..

still what's missing is MINE..!!

The "I" the "ME" was left far behind..

Everything which was their's was Mine and I lived it......

Having now a step to proceed..

I am happy as I'm successful Though for them...

Bcz.. 

.... MY sapling of dreams is still.. 2 yrs old>>

Love and Relationship

  

Osho says, “Love is not mere an emotion , love is an expression of your whole being.” So it cannot be an overwhelming fleeting and when it passes leaving behind you an empty, shattered in sadness and in sorrow.”

Isn’t love the most precious of all emotions? Love gives wholeness and liberation of whole being. In love the world seems beautiful. Still maintaining the precious feel (love) is like walking the tightrope. At the best display like trapeze artistes love too keeps everyone in the crowd spellbound with their mesmerizing charm like trapeze artistes who keep spectators spellbound with their death defying leaps and acrobatics. So often, gaping a well maintained relationship leaves one open mouth as if one is watching the gravity defying tricks.

In love the care should be taken and the grip shouldn’t be stifling one otherwise it will block the growth of another partner. At the same time tightness (bonding) should be enough to maintain the affinity. A tight grip becomes an exercise of control, stifling the growth in the relationship and a tool for emotional blackmail.

Love is not like owning someone; on the contrary it is the liberation. When someone loves, he or she allows the other to acquire more autonomy through this love.

Love is always mistaken by most of us as overwhelming emotions. Flowing in an emotion ,overwhelms one and blurs the vision .The person loses clarity. As a result whatever comes in the name of overwhelming love comes out as wrong. Losing in emotion is like walking in black cloud, in which one gets lost.

Love is a blissful emotion. Love flow through us in balanced state of our being. Therefore in love we gain tremendous insight, clarity, sensitivity, awareness. To acquire the power of love a patient investment of commitment is required to achieve it. Therefore very few people realizes this true realization of life, others simply chase the boundary instead of map.

To create true love in life it has to be taken out from the emotional grip, the false teaching we received since our birth, and we have to find a route of it, which fortunately passes through us. Unless the love becomes perennial part of our being, it is not much different from pain, suffering and sadness.

Often people claim being in love but reality show them otherwise. As they seem to perennially live in skeptics or insecurities about the relationship either begging or seeking.

Love is a confidence always stems out unconditionally.

There is not any gain and lose in love as it gives the moments to cherish.

Love also gives a means to create something permanent in our lives.

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"Babumoshai!!! Zindegi badi honi chahiye, Lambi Nahi!!"

 Said by Steve Jobs:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet Death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Rajesh Khanna is and was Phenomena. Thou he has only Six Solid Year of Startdom (from 1968 to 1974) but that was not a stardom it was Super Stardom. specially during 1969 to 1971 in this three years, he delivered 16 Superhit films in a line. If you see earlier and even Todays So Called Superstar they do not have that number of Superhit in entire their Career. From the Starting he has developed his own and Unique Style of Acting, Dance and Fashion, all other Star either and even current generation actors are either influenced from Indian or Hollywood Superstar. It is his personality which forced the world to look and think beyond Star status and became Superstar. His presence in any movie gives Guarntee of Success, Andazz (with only 15 Minute of Roles including Song) is live example. There was a Slogan in Bollywood "Upper Akka, Niche Kaka" . You can imagine his Stardom when we realise that we are talking of the era when Communication medium like TV, Mobile etc. were not there. Marketing Gimmick and Media Hype and doesn't define the Success of any Movie. In those Era Audiance decide to enter inside the theatre only based on Hand Made Poster. In that sense no other earlier or even current Star or Superstar touch the status he has achieved. We don't have right to comment on his personal life. On Professional front, his Stardom would have been longer if he could have maintain Good Personal Relation with his Team specially with his Directors. All Directors those who have given their first or biggest hit in their career like Yashraj (Daag, Ittefaque), Shakti Samant, Hrishikesh (Anand, Bawarchi, Namak Haram), Omprakash shifted to other star including Amitabh and there association continue. Ultimately Filmmaking is Team effort. Anyway Rajesh Khanna was a Legend and Great Achiever and will always be remember as a Great Family Entertainer.

 “Jindegi ka safar…hai ye kaisa safar,koi samjha nahi,koi jana na,,

Jindegi ko bhaut pyar humne kiya,,maut se v mohobbat nibhayenge hum”,,,,,”

Never miss the First Opportunity-You may regret later

This is one awesome story, I read today. I loved the story. So  I decided to share with you here in my blog. Hope you enjoy it as well and the lesson that comes along. Here goes the story:

This young man wished to marry the farmer's beautiful daughter. Therefore, he went to the farmer to ask for his permission for this marriage.

The farmer looked him over and said, "Son, go stand out in that field. I'm going to release three bulls, one at a time. If you can catch the tail of any one of the three bulls, you can marry my daughter."

The young man stood in the pasture awaiting the first bull…

The barn door opened and out ran the biggest, meanest-looking bull he had ever seen. He decided that one of the next bulls had to be a better choice than this one, so he ran over to the side and let the bull pass through the pasture out the back gate.

The barn door opened again.

…and Unbelievable! He had never seen anything so big and fierce in his life. It stood pawing the ground, grunting, slinging slobber as it eyed him. Whatever the next bull was like, it had to be a better choice than this one. He ran to the fence and let the bull pass through the pasture, out the back gate.

As the barn door opened a third time, a smile came across his face. This was the weakest, scrawniest little bull he had ever seen. This one was his bull. As the bull came running by, he positioned himself just right and jumped at just the exact moment.

He grabbed… but the bull had no tail!

Life is full of opportunities. Some will be easy to grab, some will be difficult. But once we let them pass (often in hope of something better), those opportunities may never again be available. People with a burning desire to succeed in anything, will not wait for the next better opportunity. They grab what comes along and make the best out of the available apportinity at hand.

Have you missed opportunities because you didn't grab the opportunity at hand waiting for the next one that didn't arrive? Would you mind sharing some of your experiences?

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You Are The Result Of Yourself

Today I read this article somewhere. I like this very much. It's useful for life. So I'm sharing this in  my blog.....

Don’t blame anyone, never complain of anyone or anything

Because basically you have made of your life what you wanted.

Accept the difficulties of edifying yourself

And the worth of starting to correct your character.

The triumph of the true man arises from the ashes of his mistakes.

Never complain of your loneliness or your luck.

Face it with courage and accept it.

Somehow, they are the result of your acts and

It shows that you’ll always win.

Don’t feel frustrated of your own failures, neither unload them to someone else.

Accept yourself now or you’ll go on justifying yourself like a child.

Remember that any time is good to start

And that no time is so good to give up.

Don’t forget that the cause of your present is your past,

As the cause of your future will be your present.

Learn from the brave, from the strong,

From who doesn’t accept situations

From who will live in spite of everything.

Think less of your problems and more of your work.

Learn to arise from your pain,

And to be greater than the greatest of your obstacles.

Look at the mirror of yourself and you’ll be free and strong

And you’ll stop being a puppet of circumstances.

For you yourself are your destiny.

Wake up and stare at the sun in the mornings and breathe the sun of dawn.

You’re part of the strength of your life now,

Rise up, fight, walk, be sure and you’ll win in life.

Don’t ever think of ‘fate’

For fate is the excuse of failures.

Smile Plz!!!!

Sad 

Moments

In

Life

Erased


I Love to smile.....:)

Is it wrong to be as a Myself???

I have never been the strong minded, bold and independent girl of the 21st Century.. I have never ever even been close to what one calls an 'Alpha Woman'. But today I’m feeling like this….

I do the most silliest things in the most inappropriate times of my life…But I never regret for this and that.
I end up bitching with the dean of my University,  I left his class  without saying anything to him because he is not listening our problem.
I trip on a completely flat flooring, always end up pushing a door which says pull, shop like its the last day of the world, bump into the most random people everyday banging my head into their shoulder or back, what so ever, go about waving out to every soul alive or dead (p.s.no sarcasm intended) many of which refuse to recognize me..
I read novels all day and believe they are true.. I cry listening to a sad song and even end up crying when I laugh too much.. (do u think I need help ?? Well, you are not the only one who thinks that way)
I feel hurt by the most non existent comment one passes and sit crying over it for hours at end (obviously pissing off everyone around me)
I end up falling for guys who are the perfect Mr.Wrong for me ! (Yah, trust me, I am not exaggerating !)
I do all the random things a sensible 18 year old would never do.. But because of all these things i do, sometimes, somethings happen which make me smile..
Like bitching about my dean to a friend, it helps me get my frustration out..
I trip on flat flooring, but then sometimes some nice people come help me balance myself again on two feet and ask me if I am fine.. This makes me realize humanity still exists in some corner of this materialistic world..
 I talked to the person who sat besides me in cab or bus,till I know that it’s not good for me.
When I unintentionally bang into unknown people, on some rare days they turn out to be someone I knew years ago.. A strange way of catching up with old mates, eh ?
And when I wave out to people I know, even if one among ten wave back at me and smile, assuring me that they still remember me, it makes me feel good.. People can go ahead and forget me, I can't !
When I read novels, they make me forget my sorrows. For the few hours that I read, the book takes me away from my world.. In reality which person is without any problems ? When I see something good happening even in the novel, I feel good.. So what if it is just fiction ?

I'm NOT prefect !
I don't even intend to be perfect.. I want to be human.. I want to commit mistakes and learn from them.. I want to grow as a person.. I want to struggle to get what I genuinely want.. That is when I will value it more.. In a world which manipulates with every passing second and where people change with the snap of a finger, I can proudly say I have not changed to fit myself into this 'so-called-SOCIETY'.. I still do the things I like, which give me happiness, irrespective of what everyone else thinks !


I work towards IMPROVING myself, and NOT CHANGING myself.. Difference, lot of difference..
I am just ME.. And that is all I want to be !
It is NOT wrong to be yourself ! Definitely not wrong to be yourself !! I love myself!!!!!!

 

Famous Quotes!!!!!

Because it is not always a boyfriend that a girl needs..

Friendship isn't a big thing..

                                                     Its a million little things..

Its been 4 years now.. and I am still piling on to the million little things with this one guy..

My best friend..

My sweetheart..

My support..

My backbone in every literal sense..


I still remember the days in college, when he came to say hi to me...
How I was more happy than he was when he get the appreciation in class and how he was the first one to clap proudly after I got..
How even as we fought, we always stood by each other..

It is always believed that there is less melo drama when you have a guy best friend..

BULL SHIT !!!!!!

The pint of our relationship has always been over flowing with drama..

You are too much into your new friends..

You don't care about my feelings..

You don't share anything anymore..

These are the words I generally get to hear from him when he's angry..

But till date, a little sorry and a warm hug kills all the drama and he is willing to be by my side again, holding on to me every time I am not strong enough to keep myself upright..

Yeah I do have to face a lot of 'why's' and 'what's'

"I don't like that guy.. I don't want you to talk to him"

"Why was your phone busy?"

“Why you are not calling me?”

“Why you have not taken lunch?”

"Why haven't you reached room yet?"

But that is how it is supposed to be, right?

Being protected, being cared, being loved..

It is amazing to know that you have some one to look after you, to lean on when you are tired, to cry on his shoulder when you are upset, to hold his hand when you are afraid..


It is so easy with him..
I don't have to look my best when I have to go out with him.. I don't have to sound sober and decent while talking to him.. I don't have to behave myself when I am with him..
I can cry with pouring eyes and wipe my nose on his shirt.. errr ewwwww... no I don't think I can do that :P But I can do that with him only


He is an idiot ! He will never do things a normal guy..

But He is totally different.......
He will never compliment me, but when some other guy does, he will be jealous..
He sucks at expressing how much he cares for me but does stupid little things which make my heart melt..


He makes life so much more simpler.. so much more easier.. so much more lively..


It is not about how we forget, but how we forgive each other..
not about how we listen, but how we understand each other..
not about how we are, but how we feel for each other..
not about how we let go, but how we hold on to each other..


So if he cries, I cry..
if he's hurt, I am hurt..
if he fights, I fight..
if he jumps into a sea, I had better go look for a boat,
cuz if he is gone, I am screwed !;)


He is solely and completely MINE !:)
I absolutely refuse to share him with anyone !
He belongs to me:)


He is  my boyfriend..
He is just HIM..
MY BEST FRIEND !!:)

                                                        This one's to our friendship, Rats !!

                                                                      I love you !!:)

Best friend or a perfect match???

The approach almost 98% of the people follow when it comes to finding a perfect match or a great friend is just the opposite of what actually should be done. First let’s see what most of us do then we will explore the actual way of doing the same.

It’s a general tendency to have a crush on someone or to have a desire to be friends with someone we truly admire. But over a span of time after spending so much time together, we develop strong emotional attachment for that person. Now the only thing we want to pursue for is reciprocation of our feelings and efforts from that person. Well what if the other person has never thought of you the same way? You are hurt. You are broke. You not even try to give a single thought to what the other person has in mind. May be the same kind of feelings but for someone else!!

The point I want to make is that everybody has a free will to choose. It’s true you can make use of your mind power to attract the perfect relations in your life. Now let’s see what all we have to do in order to make it happen.

The first and the foremost thing you need to do is to make it absolutely clear in your mind what all traits you want your dream partner or your great friend to have. Your job is to focus on the traits not the person. This is the key point where many of us get stumbled upon. We like the person first then start adjusting with that person’s behavior and in case it’s difficult to cope up with the differences in the thinking and opinions we realize we made a wrong choice. Then comes the season of grumbles, fights, cries etc etc.

We feel like running away from that relationship or friendship but many of us are not even comfortable with that because of our so called caring friends (who are by the way there to have fun most of the times). It is difficult to come out as change is always uncomfortable but no relation is worth being in unless it is full of support, love and respect. The fact is either you are happy in a relation or not. If you are unhappy wouldn’t be now the right time to change it?

So what are you waiting for? Pick up a pen and a paper and jot down the qualities of your dream partner or your perfect best friend. Right down what all moments you would like to spend with that person. Just imagine how that dream relationship would look like.

Now the catch is once you are done with the imagination process, you have to re-read the things you have written daily and keep your senses open!! Whenever the opportunity is there, intuitive nudge from within is there, just act. May be that dream person would be sitting next to your table in a coffee shop. Or he/she might be already a friend of you, probably would never have looked up for those qualities in that person.

Remember some relations are given to us by default i.e. parents, siblings, cousins. We have to be with them even if sometimes our cousins or siblings are nasty.  But friendship is a clairvoyant. It’s a matter of choice. Wouldn’t it be great to make a choice to be happy?Begin a new journey of love, care, support and respect!! Call is yours!! I did it and I got my best friend as my BF.

I Remember

I remember...

The moment I first saw you

When I first looked into your eyes

I felt a tremor,pass down my spine

But you remained unaffected.

I remember...

The other times

Fate put us together.

The many efforts I made

To reach out to you

But you remained indifferent.

I remember...

How desperate I felt

When I did not feel

your presence near,

When I tried to let you know

how much I yearned for you.

But you never seemed to care.

I remember...

The day you were leaving

And I saw you passing by..

My eyes brimming with

unshed tears,

Wondering if you would take me along.

But you never noticed.

I remember...

The tumult I felt within me

Waiting to reveal my

feeling to you,

wanting to probe into

Your silence

And then...

I felt your

eyelids rise..

The time stood still

when you stopped

and nodded.

And

I understood you cared.