When we grow older, we learn that it
is important to respect ourselves, and try not to mimic others.
When we are young, our parents, in
almost all families, ask us to look at others like a neighbor’s son, a cousin,
or an acquaintance and behave and become like them. We grow up thinking we need
to become like others. And the whole life we spend doing that. We learn that
our self, and we teach the same to our children. But don’t you think doing
that, clearly disrespects God’s creation?
Everyone in this world is made
unique, not for the purpose of becoming like others and imitating them. We are
made unique, because we all have the potential to become the one that we all
seek to become. But what we are taught when we are young, makes us crib for it
our whole life, and waste life, in becoming like "them".
We don't need to become like others. Cultures which had set traditions, they
had done so to maintain peace (peace brings happiness ) in the communities. But
today, we have become smart enough to understand where our boundaries
lie(because we have enough means to understand the lives and limitations of
others). Our boundary lies only in one fact that we cannot make others as well
ourselves unhappy. Rest all which happens in this world, all
the rules that are set, are only set to make this motive accomplish. World
peace, territory boundaries, terrorism, everyone who deals with these heavy
topics have the same motto, to make people happy. But we don't generally do so.
Gradually everything becomes complicated, because everyone deviates from their
line of action(reason being that human mind wants to compete).
Life is easy, if just for once, you
could keep the jealousy and the race to become like others aside.
I am saying this because I have felt
it personally.
I often say I am quite saintly,
often I think in a way which does not relate to world affairs, yet I am living
in this world. Being saintly and having different line of thought, I am also
often discarded from the world. When I was small, my mother once asked me to
imagine what would happen if my fellow classmate and a friend of mine will
score much more than I will do. She thought that imagining it, the jealousy
that I will feel, will help me score more than him. I told my mother that I
don't feel anything even if he scores more. My mother was terribly hurt that
day, and she thought I would never do anything in my life. She thought that I
do not have this competitiveness in me. When at the age of 9-10 I tried to
explain to her, that I must compete with myself, and not others, she said I did
not had the right to explain things to her cuz I was not as experienced.
After that day, this incident often
realized in front of me. I often fell in situations where I really had to
decide and feel the "jealousy", and to my surprise, I have never felt
it yet. I donno is it due to my "competitive-lessness", or its due to
any other reason which I could call as "wisdom". I concede to the
fact that I have never excelled in everything I have done, the reason could
very well be the lack of jealousy and competitiveness in my being. Whether you
call it my excuse but I say that I have not excelled in those things because I
never have liked them in order to break boundaries and work for that particular
things.
But excelling in a thing could also
differ depending on different perspectives. I wont go there, cuz, that's
absolutely different topic to be talked about.
What I want to convey is, it is true
and correct to be competitive, but if you could do that with yourself, life
will become much more easy. Everyone will be at peace in their minds. These
anger, stresses and feelings of loathes will expurgate from all minds and life
will become easy to lead, which is what all of us seek.
We dont need to worry about how
world will run, we only need to run ourselves flawlessly, and if we cant, we
could at least try, cuz who knows, after a few generations possibly we could attain
"RAM RAJ" the perfect world that we all seek.
I am not here to preach, but this is
what I deeply feel. If anyone has the hesitation and starts thinking about the
repercussions, I assure u that it is tough in the beginning, but it is where
you will find your solace, and life will definitely become easy.
It is my personal experience.
Respect yourself. Be the way you are. Identify what you like and what you want
to be like(not like others but the unique one like yourself. It is possible).
There's nothing wrong with you or what you do, cuz after you are dead nothing
matters, and until you are living you can make things "matter" what
you want to make "matter".
