Life is a Mystery

When life is a mystery with secrets untold,

survival can’t depend on just money or gold!

If time is an illusion and nothing is certain,

it’s difficult to measure the loss and the gain.

When each one of us is a prisoner here,

what makes us believe we can claim our share?

If change is only constant, and death, an ultimate solution,

forever and always seem nothing but delusion…

Along one lonely road, you slowly lose yourself,
with a desire to earn the mountains of wealth!

No matter how hard you try, you will always lose this game,

leaving everything you earned - your name, your fame!

In the end what matters is how much you share,

without a discussion on what’s yours...what’s theirs

If the people who loved you are all long gone

then, who are these strangers that call you their own!!!

Dreams at Night!!!!

Ever wondered why all creative activity finds its potential in silence? What is thinking? Is it giving time to your mind to express itself, or just a process to browse your mind, or the instinct(popularly known as The Voice of Heart)?

I probably spend far too much time thinking about life. So many nights I have spent thinking - Thinking about various things, feeling sleepy but do not want to sleep- Just staring at my ceiling- thinking of doing something- something other than nothing- about the figures and colors I want to paint those empty canvases with, thoughts of packing my bags and running away towards the mountains, about the musical instruments I would love to learn, lost friends I would want to meet again, or just a weird imagination that if I try to spread my hands would I be able to fly like birds? About many unfulfilled dreams that are the basic cause of thoughts or may be about that charming guy I have always wanted to be with, in the sunset, holding hands!!!

And then spending whole day in making various schemes on how to turn these thoughts into reality. Have you ever had your most constructive thought at night, of how wonderful life could be? There is a strange kind of reality in these thoughts it seems, that give our lives a strange excitement. Remember Santiago, that famous character of the book 'The Alchemist' who believed in his dream so much that he traveled all the way to Egyptian Pyramids in order to chase his dream? It creates a great feeling of passion to turn these dreams into reality.

I am sure, to some extent , these late night thoughts are the basic and the most important reason for the kind of life we lead and are the first step towards achievement, as each thought is a creator of new experience and when we put all our effort to turn these imaginary experiences into reality, life becomes a wonderful journey, I believe. It is an addiction to be lost in the dreams!!!

S U C C E S S= C R A Z Y B E L I E F

I was “wasting” time on Google earlier today and came across this image and felt I needed to put it up here just to remind myself of it, regularly.



So next time you are doubting yourself, let the crazy in you WIN! :)

When I am with you

I can be myself when I am with you…

Because you make me feel like I have never felt before…

I can tell you anything…any crap…can vent any amount of frustration…& you have started listening to it…

Your undying faith is what keeps the flame of love alive….

You and me together…simply create MAGIC….

Thinking of you, fills me with a wonderful feeling…

Your love gives me the feeling, that the best is still ahead…

You never give up on me, and that’s what keeps me going…

You are simply irresistible….

Your terrific sense of humour…

I have had the best time of my life with you and I owe it all to you.

When I look into your eyes, I can see your heart…

Your love has helped me to rediscover myself…b confident…

I love to walk with you by my side…It makes my journey better…

I love that feeling of being secure when you wrap your arms around me…

I love the way you keep your cool when I do something stupid…

I like your small gestures that speak volumes about how much you care…

You mean the world to me…

I love the way you patch up with me after a stupid fight…

And, of course, your intelligence, ’cause you were smart enough to fall in love with me.........:) 

I love Monsoon

 Since I was a kid, monsoons never ceased to amaze me. It is by far, the most beautiful season of the year. The smell of rains, the sound of raindrops and the rainbows are the most amazing sights! They mesmerize me to no end. As a kid, when we went to school, the bus being delayed was an excuse for us to splash water on friends and play in the mud pool. Being dirty never mattered back then. Those innocent giggles and rain drenched faces! Oh, I so miss them! College meant rainy seasons spent in canteen and gossip with friends! And now, with office, a walk on the Bangalore Road or seeing the monsoon from my 3^rd floor building ,it’s  a picturesque scene which is not worth missing! Rains make me go all nature loving and mushy!

                  But every happy thing changes somewhere when you are all grown up and mature. Let me, for instance add bullets to my issues during monsoons:

• I JUST hate when commuting is a problem during monsoons. Like where do the auto rickshaws suddenly disappear? They used to swarm around and go all honk honk honk, but now, when you are all swollen eyed, running late for office and the skies have decided to empty all of its day’s quota, you don’t find one bloody single rickshawala!!! And all you can do is AAaaaarrghhhh!!!

• Next, the great BANGALORE ROADS. Is it just my imagination or the pot holes do multiply by infinite every year? We deal with all the road construction taking place round the year, with the hope of a better monsoon; but the “new” roads cannot even bear the wrath of the first rain of the season and we are blessed with knee-deep water logging!

• Also, the streets are so clean (irony intended) that the water logging brings with itself all sorts of amazing sights like plastic floating, drainage issues, dirt and yuck coming out from everywhere on roads!!! And to say that we live in an ultra modern ‘metro’ 

• Buses. How can rain and bus be not part of the same sentence? Delays, derails and cancellations are all given as free surprises to the ‘all-drenched out’, ‘already running late’ and ‘in the nick of time’ working people!

• What’s more, you are not even at peace inside the house. The litter, the flies, the dampness all add to a housemaker’s woes. Suddenly there is dearth of brightness in the house. The washed clothes refuse to dry themselves. The whole process of washing-drying-ironing gets disturbed and there are pile ons, the cleaning process multifolds and much much more!

 

Handling Pushy Co-Workers

I just go through same situation recently in my workplace, So I thought to publish this in my blog..

It is a tough world out there! We have often heard this phrase repeated to us by our parents, guardians or well-wishers. But it is only when we set our foot within the premises of a workplace do we get to understand the intensity and inner meaning of these words. In a place where hundreds of people come together and associate with each other, it is but natural that differences in opinions arise. This often leads to arguments and strained relations which become difficult to handle at times. You may often come across people who are prone to aggressive talks, conflicts and pushiness. This might even drain you off your motive and zeal at times. It is vital to have a good working atmosphere lest the place gets suffocating and overpowering for you. Handling a pushy coworker needs some technique and understanding. Read on to know how exactly to do this.

Tips For Handling Pushy Coworkers 

• The key to handling pushy coworkers is to avoid any kind of chatting or gossiping. Avoid trusting anyone who appears to be too friendly offering help for no good reasons. Many a times, people come to talk or offer help with your work. This might actually be an attempt to get information about your work which might be later used against you. So, make it a point to politely but firmly avoiding any personal talks in between office hours.
• Never disclose anything private or personal as you can never know when this might be used against you. It is also advisable not to mingle work with pleasure. This will be beneficial for you as no one will be able to put forward words against you.
• Wise people always keep a tab on their daily conversations and activities. Maintain daily records and document every task performed by you. Today, the computer being a major form of managing records and documents, can easily be sabotaged or duplicated without even your consent. Hence, it is always better to maintain back-up files and reports.
• Draw clear boundaries and never try to follow the ways that you feel is wrong or inappropriate. Some colleagues can get really pushy and try to convince you to do a task a particular way. The simplest way to avoid this is by clearly and politely explaining your view on the situation. You might even receive critical opinions on your work. If so, simply offer your gratitude for the helpful feedback and let the situation go.
• Some people might try to corner you at office by creating tensions and disputes over small situations. The best way to handle this is to avoid such small talks completely. However, if the situation becomes a little too strong, you can in a mild manner express your opinion on the issue.
• Make decisions according to the intensity of the condition. In case, it is getting out of hand and you are finding it difficult to manage, you can take it to the supervisor and ask for maintaining a healthy atmosphere at the workplace.
• You can also change the seat allocation if you are at close proximity with the ‘pushy’ colleague.

I believe on same for my life

Low Self Esteem : Ways to Overcome

Life is too short to for complexities and self-pity. To lead a happy and contented life, we should learn to create our own identity and develop a sense of self-confidence. The prime concept behind ‘self-confidence’ is to accept and love yourself, despite our flaws and defects. We should always remember that no one in this world is perfect and expecting too much from own self can always lead to a lot of depression and despair, particularly if the wishes are not fulfilled. Accepting who you are will go a great deal in helping you achieve success, be it any sphere of life.

I just go through the some research on it. I described that in below phrase:

Different psychotherapists and counselors have come up with different definitions of self-esteem. In fact, the terms self esteem, self-respect and self-integrity are deemed to be closely related with each other. To know whether you are suffering from low self-esteem (LSE), you should be able to recognize the signs and symptoms and then act accordingly. In case it is the initial stage, of mild to moderate degree of LSE, then taking care of the situation can be quite simple and easy. However, in the latter stages, it can take a lot of effort on your part and you may even need to opt for professional advice or help. Given below are some tips on how you can fix the problem of low self-esteem.

How To Overcome Low Self Esteem which i follow/used to do in my life:

·         Make a list of all your strength and weaknesses. Now, start with your strengths and talk about them. Once you feel that you can handle your weakness, select one of them and think of ways of how you can improve it.

·         Accept and welcome compliments from others, even if you feel that you don’t deserve them. Also, never fail to congratulate yourself when you do anything good.

·         Try to judge what is right for you and strive to find a balance between what you feel and what you know to be true. Make it a point not to blindly accept criticism and blame from others.

·         Do not attempt to take a major leap in life, to move closer to your goals. You should keep in mind that a single small step towards achievement is better than one major leap leading to failure.

·         Try to judge your capacities and set goals or aims in accordance with them. Failure to fulfill unexceptionally high aims can lead to a lot of depression and subsequently low self-esteem.

·         Always keep in mind that nobody in this world is perfect and desiring perfectionism from oneself can lead to low self-esteem.

·         Be careful while choosing friends. Be with only those people who support you and have a positive approach towards life.

·         Spend some time everyday in doing something that you enjoy. This can be anything from reading a book to listening to music to walking in the park. Feel yourself getting engulfed with the joy of performing these activities. This will definitely increase your sense of self worth and self-integrity.

·         Never put yourself below others and avoid any form of negative comments regarding your skills and activities.

Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be !!

Begin From Now

Life demands so much from us

As we live from day to day

Here on earth as a being with life

Coupled with vision, goals and aspiration

The time begins now

Move out and do something worthwhile

But for now and the future

Begin again and start all over

No matter what you’ve done

Nor what you have achieve today

Everything starts from a thought

That transforms into reality

Paving way for greater result

Wakening up the subconscious mind

Let it to race to achieving greatness

Begin from now

Define your goals what you want

Write it out and work towards it

 Bringing back the lost time in fruitless aimless visitation

No amount of time is to be of waste

A moment will come

When you won’t be able to stand anymore

And that’s when history would have been made

While you were busy slumbering away

Wasting precious time now wondering in painful memories

Filled with regret of not doing that which ought to be have done

Wondering away in darkness searching for road in the dark

See if you don’t take now to talk about the future

Sure I doubt you will end up in the dark wondering

I tell you, you’ve got to begin from now

To prepare and design that future

Of which you want to live in

Tomorrow is calling you held its call

There’s no better time to start then now

Purpose in Life

 

It is the same old story that does the rounds in every human being’s life span – as children and as youngsters; we are trained to sell ourselves in the job market, run the rat race and reach a situation wherein the only purpose of earning money is money itself and nothing else. Then one fine day we find our lives spinning out of control and are forced to take a very hard look at ourselves and ask ourselves a very typically existential question – What is the purpose of my life? Why am I here? Most of us never get the answer to this question, which prompted sardonic men like Camus and Nietzsche to question the very purpose of life at all. Do not fall into the trap of existentialists and decide that life is meaningless. Try and find out the purpose of your life by following these guidelines.

How to know Your Deeper Purpose in Life

Here’s how to know why you are here on this earth and what is the deeper purpose of your life:

Reflect Positive

You will need to spend some time all by yourself and ask yourself what is it about your life – personal, professional, and social – that you enjoy doing the most. Ask yourself as to what it is that gives you true pleasure and makes you forget everything else. Also, make a list (a physical one on paper – not a mental one in your mind or a virtual one on Microsoft Word!) of all your passions and make note of which of them you are still taking up seriously and which ones you have left behind. For example actor Rahul Bose, though he pursued films as a career, could not tear himself from his one true passion – rugby – and is a national level rugby player. Keep in mind that participating in your passion along with work and other commitments means seriously taking an active interest in them – if your passion is cricket but your only means of participating is by catching up on the IPL every season, you are not actively involved in it.

Reflect Negative

Do not get confused by the subtitle into thinking that to find the purpose of your life, you need to brood over what you regret, lost or disliked about the life that you have led. It just needs you to recognize what makes you unhappy and what areas of your life don’t feel right to you. For example, your job may be unfulfilling or you may be in an unhappy relationship. You will have to write these thoughts down as well.

Who’s That In The Mirror?

Look at your reflection in the mirror and ask yourself as to what kind of person do you see in front of you. It goes without saying that a more metaphysical level is being talked here rather than what are the physical attributes of the person you see in the mirror. Even as you assess yourself in the mirror, think about the type of person that you want to be and make a list of the goals and dreams you’d like to fulfill. Consider all the possibilities and don’t be afraid to dream big.

This Or That?

Now that you know all you need to know, it is decision-making time. Also, begin making changes to work toward your life purpose. For example, if you’ve come to the realization that you’re not happy with your current career and that it doesn’t fulfill your personal values or dreams, make a plan of action to transition into a new career that you’re passionate about.

Meaning of "Success"

 ‘Success’ is a personal perception. Each person has their own definition, success is a personal notion; for some it is financial security, others being healthy – for yet others it is the depth of their friendships,

In some way the questions represent a notion of ‘success’. Over time my answers may change. Interesting, however that most of the questions do relate to those five fundamental components of well-being documented by the New Economic Forum

1. People Connection
2. Being Active
3. Take Notice
4. Learning
5. Give

Take a moment and rate yourself 1 to 10 for each of the questions below (10 representing doing really well) – and then consider of each of the elements where do you want to focus your energy (not all questions might be relevant).

After all 'success' is a personal journey.

• Finding meaningful and fulfilling work? ___
• Finding suitable spouse partner? ___
• Building a successful relationship with your spouse/partner? ___
• Raising your children? ___
• Building and/or maintaining a close relationship with your parents? ___
• Building and/or maintaining a close relationship with your siblings? ___
• Developing close friendships? ___
• Stewarding your financial resources? ___
• Living up to your intellectual potential? ___
• Nurturing your spiritual potential? ___
• Dealing with your fears? ___
• Finding wisdom? ___
• Taking care of your physical health? ___
• Taking care of your emotional health? ___
• Being of service to others? ___
• Being at one with yourself? ___
• Accepting your limitations? ___
• Coming to terms with aging and your own mortality? ___
• Everyone at birth is ‘dealt a hand,’ so to speak rate the quality of the ‘hand’ you were dealt? ___
• Overall, rate yourself on how well you believe you have played the game of life, given the hand you were dealt? ___

I have always operated believing that ‘if it is meant to be it is up to me’ – Where did you score below 5? And what are you going to do to work on that area? I’m reviewing my life in terms of the above and there is actions to be taken…

It is just as important to ask yourself hard questions about your life – and review how it is going – as it is for a business. All to often we drift from one thing to the next - not taking a moment to appreciate our 'successes'.