Change in Attitude with relate to Career

Today i just go through this article on a site. I'm just uploading it for myself and others career purpose......

In  career, nothing matters more than the attitude. It is a more powerful driver of success than skill, experience, or even luck. But how do your control your attitude, day in and day out? For most people, this is the challenge they cannot overcome.

I've been thinking quite a bit about this challenge lately, and I've come to believe that for most people there are a few elements that make all the difference between being downtrodden and delighted:

1. Maintain a growth mindset. According to Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, there are two types of mindsets you can have with regards to your talent and abilities. You can view them as fixed or as something you can grow. People who see their talents as fixed consistently fall short versus those who believe that they can acquire new abilities through effort and hard work.

So the first step towards changing your attitude is to recognize that you can grow your abilities. Abandon any notion that you are not smart, talented, or experienced enough. If you are willing to work hard, you can grow into any challenge.

2. Use a growth mindset to increase your competence. In today's economy, you have to be good at something that other people value... and you have to get better at it over time. Fortunately, once you adopt a growth mindset, you will understand that increasing your skill level is a direct function of the effort you invest in getting better.

I'd like to suggest that you consider who controls your fate at work, and focus your energy on increasingly the skills that person or group most values in you. This may not be your direct supervisor; it may be that person's boss, or it may be the owner of your firm.

It may sound obvious to say 'get better at what your organization needs you to do', but the simple fact is that most people miss this obvious path forward. They do the same thing, day after day. They don't grow. Most importantly, they don't aspire to grow.

Be different. Resolve to grow your competence level.

3. The best talent is bringing out talent in others. No matter what your profession, the work you personally produce every day is not nearly as important as the impact you have on other people. Why? There are MANY other people and only one you. If you are a talented programmer but consistently negative and divisive, eventually your career will suffer.

Bringing out talent in others is not the same as managing others. You can bring out the best in your boss, in co-workers, in friends and casual acquaintances. The more you do this, the more people will value having you around.

There's no magic formula for succeeding in this regard. In fact, the most essential step is to simply recognize that, no matter what, you need to be a person who brings out the best in others. Listen to others. Value what they have to say, even if you don't agree. Treat them with respect.

Nothing changes your attitude faster than thinking, "Help this person" every time you interact with another person. Yes, I said every time.

4. Find meaning in what you do. Money is important, no doubt. But if money is your prime motivation, you put yourself at a distinct disadvantage. You will make decisions that are bad for your colleagues and customers. People will perceive you as greedy instead of good to be around.

No matter what you do, to manage your own attitude you will need to find meaning in your work. This is a highly personal choice, but it is a critical one. If you perceive your work as meaningful, you will have the energy to work hard enough to grow day after day.

It may take some thought and creativity, but to change your attitude you will need to change your perception of the role of meaning in your work.

Meaning can come from...

• mastering a craft
• elevating the lives of others
• being part of a team
• supporting your family
• setting an example for your kids
• doing what you were born to do
• overcoming obstacles
• constantly growing

Add it all up, and here's what you get:

Week after week, I'm growing, increasing my skills, helping others, and doing something that's meaningful to me."

My Favorites RUMI Poetry....

A Persian poet and a Sufi mystic, Rumi has always been my favorite. A poet whose words give peace to my soul. Here are some verses that I love of Rumi. Hope you like them too!!!

         

         The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you
                         Don't go back to sleep
                              You must ask
                      For what you really want
                       Don't go back to sleep
                 People are going back and forth
                          Across the doorsill
                 Where the two worlds touch
                  The door is round and open
                     Don't go back to sleep

                                       ---------

       Today I'm out wandering, turning my skull
         into a cup for others to drink wine from.
 In this town somewhere there sits a calm,
                       intelligent person
     who doesn't know what he's about to do!

                                       ---------

                                    Be Fair
 Admit that love has in it all the righteousness
                         that we need.

            Confess that you're willing to forget                    
          and be numb enough to call some low
                          desire a holy name.                        
            Live as evidence that there is a way
                       from wanting to longing.
                                       ------------

           When I am with you, we stay up all night.
           When you're not here, I can't go to sleep.
              Praise God for these two insomnias!
                and the difference between them.

                     

                                    -----------

                  When it's cold and raining,

                   You are more beautiful.
 And the snow brings me even closer to your lips.
     The inner secret, that which was never born
   you are that freshness, and I am with you now
      I can't explain the goings, or the comings.
              You enter suddenly, and I am
            nowhere again. Inside the majesty.

                                        ----------

       Keep walking though there's no place to get to.
                Don't try to see through the distances.
                     That's not for human beings
                     Move within but don't move
                The way that fear makes you move.

                                        ---------

         Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing,
                 There is a field. I'll meet you there
                When the soul lies down in that grass,
                   the world is too full to talk about.
                   Ideas, language, even the phrase
                         doesn't make any sense.

Low Self Esteem : Ways to Overcome

Life is too short to for complexities and self-pity. To lead a happy and contented life, we should learn to create our own identity and develop a sense of self-confidence. The prime concept behind ‘self-confidence’ is to accept and love yourself, despite our flaws and defects. We should always remember that no one in this world is perfect and expecting too much from own self can always lead to a lot of depression and despair, particularly if the wishes are not fulfilled. Accepting who you are will go a great deal in helping you achieve success, be it any sphere of life.

I just go through the some research on it. I described that in below phrase:

Different psychotherapists and counselors have come up with different definitions of self-esteem. In fact, the terms self esteem, self-respect and self-integrity are deemed to be closely related with each other. To know whether you are suffering from low self-esteem (LSE), you should be able to recognize the signs and symptoms and then act accordingly. In case it is the initial stage, of mild to moderate degree of LSE, then taking care of the situation can be quite simple and easy. However, in the latter stages, it can take a lot of effort on your part and you may even need to opt for professional advice or help. Given below are some tips on how you can fix the problem of low self-esteem.

How To Overcome Low Self Esteem which i follow/used to do in my life:

·         Make a list of all your strength and weaknesses. Now, start with your strengths and talk about them. Once you feel that you can handle your weakness, select one of them and think of ways of how you can improve it.

·         Accept and welcome compliments from others, even if you feel that you don’t deserve them. Also, never fail to congratulate yourself when you do anything good.

·         Try to judge what is right for you and strive to find a balance between what you feel and what you know to be true. Make it a point not to blindly accept criticism and blame from others.

·         Do not attempt to take a major leap in life, to move closer to your goals. You should keep in mind that a single small step towards achievement is better than one major leap leading to failure.

·         Try to judge your capacities and set goals or aims in accordance with them. Failure to fulfill unexceptionally high aims can lead to a lot of depression and subsequently low self-esteem.

·         Always keep in mind that nobody in this world is perfect and desiring perfectionism from oneself can lead to low self-esteem.

·         Be careful while choosing friends. Be with only those people who support you and have a positive approach towards life.

·         Spend some time everyday in doing something that you enjoy. This can be anything from reading a book to listening to music to walking in the park. Feel yourself getting engulfed with the joy of performing these activities. This will definitely increase your sense of self worth and self-integrity.

·         Never put yourself below others and avoid any form of negative comments regarding your skills and activities.

Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be !!

Purpose in Life

 

It is the same old story that does the rounds in every human being’s life span – as children and as youngsters; we are trained to sell ourselves in the job market, run the rat race and reach a situation wherein the only purpose of earning money is money itself and nothing else. Then one fine day we find our lives spinning out of control and are forced to take a very hard look at ourselves and ask ourselves a very typically existential question – What is the purpose of my life? Why am I here? Most of us never get the answer to this question, which prompted sardonic men like Camus and Nietzsche to question the very purpose of life at all. Do not fall into the trap of existentialists and decide that life is meaningless. Try and find out the purpose of your life by following these guidelines.

How to know Your Deeper Purpose in Life

Here’s how to know why you are here on this earth and what is the deeper purpose of your life:

Reflect Positive

You will need to spend some time all by yourself and ask yourself what is it about your life – personal, professional, and social – that you enjoy doing the most. Ask yourself as to what it is that gives you true pleasure and makes you forget everything else. Also, make a list (a physical one on paper – not a mental one in your mind or a virtual one on Microsoft Word!) of all your passions and make note of which of them you are still taking up seriously and which ones you have left behind. For example actor Rahul Bose, though he pursued films as a career, could not tear himself from his one true passion – rugby – and is a national level rugby player. Keep in mind that participating in your passion along with work and other commitments means seriously taking an active interest in them – if your passion is cricket but your only means of participating is by catching up on the IPL every season, you are not actively involved in it.

Reflect Negative

Do not get confused by the subtitle into thinking that to find the purpose of your life, you need to brood over what you regret, lost or disliked about the life that you have led. It just needs you to recognize what makes you unhappy and what areas of your life don’t feel right to you. For example, your job may be unfulfilling or you may be in an unhappy relationship. You will have to write these thoughts down as well.

Who’s That In The Mirror?

Look at your reflection in the mirror and ask yourself as to what kind of person do you see in front of you. It goes without saying that a more metaphysical level is being talked here rather than what are the physical attributes of the person you see in the mirror. Even as you assess yourself in the mirror, think about the type of person that you want to be and make a list of the goals and dreams you’d like to fulfill. Consider all the possibilities and don’t be afraid to dream big.

This Or That?

Now that you know all you need to know, it is decision-making time. Also, begin making changes to work toward your life purpose. For example, if you’ve come to the realization that you’re not happy with your current career and that it doesn’t fulfill your personal values or dreams, make a plan of action to transition into a new career that you’re passionate about.

Meaning of "Success"

 ‘Success’ is a personal perception. Each person has their own definition, success is a personal notion; for some it is financial security, others being healthy – for yet others it is the depth of their friendships,

In some way the questions represent a notion of ‘success’. Over time my answers may change. Interesting, however that most of the questions do relate to those five fundamental components of well-being documented by the New Economic Forum

1. People Connection
2. Being Active
3. Take Notice
4. Learning
5. Give

Take a moment and rate yourself 1 to 10 for each of the questions below (10 representing doing really well) – and then consider of each of the elements where do you want to focus your energy (not all questions might be relevant).

After all 'success' is a personal journey.

• Finding meaningful and fulfilling work? ___
• Finding suitable spouse partner? ___
• Building a successful relationship with your spouse/partner? ___
• Raising your children? ___
• Building and/or maintaining a close relationship with your parents? ___
• Building and/or maintaining a close relationship with your siblings? ___
• Developing close friendships? ___
• Stewarding your financial resources? ___
• Living up to your intellectual potential? ___
• Nurturing your spiritual potential? ___
• Dealing with your fears? ___
• Finding wisdom? ___
• Taking care of your physical health? ___
• Taking care of your emotional health? ___
• Being of service to others? ___
• Being at one with yourself? ___
• Accepting your limitations? ___
• Coming to terms with aging and your own mortality? ___
• Everyone at birth is ‘dealt a hand,’ so to speak rate the quality of the ‘hand’ you were dealt? ___
• Overall, rate yourself on how well you believe you have played the game of life, given the hand you were dealt? ___

I have always operated believing that ‘if it is meant to be it is up to me’ – Where did you score below 5? And what are you going to do to work on that area? I’m reviewing my life in terms of the above and there is actions to be taken…

It is just as important to ask yourself hard questions about your life – and review how it is going – as it is for a business. All to often we drift from one thing to the next - not taking a moment to appreciate our 'successes'.

9 Attitudes towards a happy ‘You’

Today I just got some situation in which i just thought what i can do in this type of situation. I've think about for some time and just then i go through an article.So i'm sharing this in my blog....

The key to happiness is to do the same things you do every day but with a slightly different approach. Start bringing those changes in your attitude towards life and you'll see how simple it is to be happy!

Gratitude
Appreciate what you have and value it. Try counting your positives and be grateful for all the good things and people in your life. Stop complaining and be thankful for what you already have and you'll soon start feeling happy.

Optimism
Treat failure as an opportunity to learn a new and better lesson from life, and that's the trick to manufacture optimism in life. Never give up trying because that's an indication that something better is in store. Once you start harbouring an optimistic attitude towards life, success will automatically follow.

Avoid comparison
Nothing is as awful as comparing yourself to someone else. If you think you're better that the other person, you're letting yourself regale in an unhealthy sense of superiority. If you demean yourself in front of others, it means all your hard work and progress has been in vain. While social comparisons are unhealthy, self-improvement is effective.

Kindness
There's a scientific reason behind every act of kindness that you do. Helping someone selflessly releases serotonin in your brain (Serotonin is the hormone that controls your mood) and hence makes you feel good about yourself almost instantly. Try doing one act of kindness everyday to flush out the toxins of depression from your system.

Nurture relationships
Relationships keep us alive and kicking. In fact, according to research studies loneliness doubles people's mortality rates. A circle of good friends, loving family members and cheerful colleagues are a reminder that you have people who care about you. There's nothing like having someone who you can share your experiences with. So nurture these relationships and say goodbye to a lonesome existence.

Forgive
Hatred is a negative feeling and harbouring it will have nothing but negative effects on your well-being. Stop thinking about the hateful emotion/person and let it go. Forgive if needed, take things lightly and let it not affect your system.

Commit to your goals
If you have a goal, work towards it. Anything is achievable if you put your heart into it. Wholehearted dedication and diligence can bring extraordinary results and consequentially add to your happiness.

Spirituality
Spirituality teaches us that life is bigger than us and it helps us connect to the larger meanings of life. Practice spirituality to understand the source of all creation and feel connected to everything that exists in this world.

Care for your body
Love yourself and love your body! Your physical condition has a direct connection with your well-being. A fit body and healthy mind is reflective of happiness. Start working towards the health of your physical, mental and emotional energy by caring for your body.

Never miss the First Opportunity-You may regret later

This is one awesome story, I read today. I loved the story. So  I decided to share with you here in my blog. Hope you enjoy it as well and the lesson that comes along. Here goes the story:

This young man wished to marry the farmer's beautiful daughter. Therefore, he went to the farmer to ask for his permission for this marriage.

The farmer looked him over and said, "Son, go stand out in that field. I'm going to release three bulls, one at a time. If you can catch the tail of any one of the three bulls, you can marry my daughter."

The young man stood in the pasture awaiting the first bull…

The barn door opened and out ran the biggest, meanest-looking bull he had ever seen. He decided that one of the next bulls had to be a better choice than this one, so he ran over to the side and let the bull pass through the pasture out the back gate.

The barn door opened again.

…and Unbelievable! He had never seen anything so big and fierce in his life. It stood pawing the ground, grunting, slinging slobber as it eyed him. Whatever the next bull was like, it had to be a better choice than this one. He ran to the fence and let the bull pass through the pasture, out the back gate.

As the barn door opened a third time, a smile came across his face. This was the weakest, scrawniest little bull he had ever seen. This one was his bull. As the bull came running by, he positioned himself just right and jumped at just the exact moment.

He grabbed… but the bull had no tail!

Life is full of opportunities. Some will be easy to grab, some will be difficult. But once we let them pass (often in hope of something better), those opportunities may never again be available. People with a burning desire to succeed in anything, will not wait for the next better opportunity. They grab what comes along and make the best out of the available apportinity at hand.

Have you missed opportunities because you didn't grab the opportunity at hand waiting for the next one that didn't arrive? Would you mind sharing some of your experiences?